Simple ways to be a happier mom

Ask a mom if she’s happier now that she has a child, and she’ll usually say yes. But psychologists who study happiness often report a different picture. Being the mom of a young child (especially one under 3) is rewarding, but also a real strain on your mood. Moment to moment, you may be exhausted, frustrated, sometimes angry. In fact, on their list of pleasurable activities, moms rank childcare lower than eating, exercising, or watching TV. And kid care rates only slightly higher than housework, working, or ! Kids do bring joy. They bring transcendent moments that outweigh all the hard work. It’s just that children do not increase your average daily enjoyment.

The happiness paradox one reason for the discrepancy between moms and experts: selective memory. When psychologists ask moms in a general way if they like spending time with their kids, the overwhelming majority say they do because they’re thinking of fun activities like reading a book or playing in the park. When they’re specifically asked to describe their actual daily routine, they remember the hours they spent struggling to get their child dressed or ready for bed. Maybe, though, the cold calculus of psychological science is missing the intensity of joy that time spent with your child can bring. There are little spent with your child can bring. There are little moments that moments can overcome your daily frustrations. Happiness is more than just that smiley feeling. It’s also feeling a connection to something larger than yourself. When people are in service to something bigger, they describe their lives as filled with meaning. It’s not the smiley face, but when it’s all over, you realize happier mom, then, is to value what you do to. The next step is to find ways to make it more enjoyable.

Admit when you’re stressed ironically, once you stop expecting motherhood to feel warm and fuzzy all the time, life as a mom gets easier. It’s okay to feel frustrated, angry, or irritable sometimes. You’re not a bad parent. It’s not even a experience. It’s just normal.

Get enough sleep most of us know that money can’t buy happiness, but who knew that a good night’s sleep just might? So how can you sneak in that extra hour or two? One mom says her husband takes over on the weekends so she can sleep in. It makes a big difference in the way she feels. And she’s more willing to do something active, like take he daughter to the park. If she’s tired, the most she can do is sit there and read to her.